From heartbreak to healing: How one woman found peace, purpose, and a renewed connection with her son
In 2019, Amy Kang, a 48-year-old mother, made the life-altering decision to end her 14-year marriage. The divorce, though mutual, marked the culmination of years of emotional distance and unresolved conflicts in their Buangkok HDB flat. Conversations between Amy and her husband had become strained, often giving way to uncomfortable silences. Arguments, though rare, were deeply impactful, especially for their son, who was just 11 when Amy initiated the separation.
“We both wanted it, but I took the step,” Amy shares, reflecting on her transition to single motherhood. Sitting at the RICE office, she clutches the familiar teal bag of a food delivery rider, her damp hair betraying a rainy motorbike commute. Her pastel pink shirt mirrors her gentle tone as she discusses the challenges and revelations of her journey.
Amy works part-time as a delivery rider for Deliveroo and GrabFood, a role that offers her the flexibility to support her son while navigating life’s uncertainties. For her, delivery riding is more than just a job—it’s an escape and a lifeline. Holidays, particularly Christmas, used to amplify her loneliness, as her son would spend them with his father. “I’ve learned to live alone during these festive times,” she admits, though the solitude weighs on her.
Finding Purpose on the Road
Before her divorce, Amy’s life was dictated by routine. She worked as a clinic assistant, managing calls and appointments by day, only to return to a silent and emotionally unfulfilling home. “I didn’t feel loved,” she recalls, her voice softening. Struggles with mental health further compounded her challenges, leaving her detached from household responsibilities.
Post-divorce, however, Amy found renewed motivation. Cleaning her home became symbolic of reclaiming control. A chance encounter with a neighbor introduced her to delivery riding, a role she embraced with determination. “Where attention goes, energy flows,” she repeats as her mantra, a daily reminder of her resilience.
As a rider, Amy’s experiences have been varied—some heartwarming, others frustrating. She recounts difficult customers and logistical hurdles but emphasizes the respect and kindness delivery riders deserve. “We’re all human,” she states firmly. “Kindness begets kindness.”
Despite occasional setbacks, Amy’s journey has brought unexpected joy. Her interactions with fellow riders, including a supportive group called the “Snake Gang,” have provided camaraderie and comfort. The job’s flexibility has also allowed her to explore metaphysics, a new passion that has shaped her perspective and informed her next chapter.
Rebuilding Relationships
Delivery riding has done more than provide financial stability—it has helped Amy rebuild her bond with her son. The flexibility of her schedule allows her to be more present, a stark contrast to the emotional distance they experienced after the divorce.
This year, for the first time in four years, Amy’s son will spend Christmas with her. Together, they are embarking on a new venture: a metaphysics consultancy rooted in Chinese astrology and feng shui. Her son has been instrumental in the business, contributing ideas and distributing flyers.
“I’m looking forward to Christmas,” Amy says with a hopeful smile. “I give my blessings to my ex and appreciate his contributions to our family.”
As Amy rides away, her delivery bag set aside for the season, she looks forward to a Christmas filled with warmth and connection. For the first time in years, her home—and her heart—feels alive again.
